Have you ever tried to make sense to a sister, or best friend, about an emotional issue they were convinced was truth, but you saw differently? A wide chasm of boundaries wrapped around denial and emotional intensity, makes anything not in agreement the enemy. Please know when you read Tarot for yourself, you are just as close to your own inner chatter, denials and fierce desire to see the truth as you want it to be. It is very difficult, when reading for oneself, to think with neutrality.
WHAT DOES READING WITH NEUTRALITY MEAN?
The most important difference between a professional Tarot Reader, and a Novice, is the ability to read in detachment from personal judgment and emotion. You must see the topic of concern being asked on by a client, neither good, bad, or with pity. Only then can you give advice with clarity. This is why many readers get advice from other readers. Neutrality says it like it is without sway.
HOW DOES PERSONAL PASSION EFFECT THE CARDS?
About 75% of what you are energetically putting in to Tarot, is based on the attitude you read in. Taking yourself out of the equation, you will receive the “common denominator”….the major “point” of it all. Passion not only influences the energy and aura around you, but the cards you read with. So only 25 % of the reading you are eagerly giving yourself, is the actual truth and probably what you don’t want to hear. That is the part that will often make you redo and redo and redo your reading on yourself, until you get the answer you want.
WHAT SUBJECTS SHOULD YOU NOT READ ON FOR YOURSELF?
@ Co Workers and Relationships – this is especially a big no no because you are WAY too close to the subject matter.
@ The property you want to buy with all your heart – again, you are intensely passionate about your desire to buy
EXAMPLE OF WHAT HAPPENS WHEN READING FOR YOURSELF ON LOVE
EXAMPLE: A client called me about a man she was in love with. Why did she feel so “connected” to him and was he her Soul Mate?
ANSWER: I saw that he felt intensely comfortable with her, loved to communicate with her, but also saw her as dangerous. Why? Because this man was in a relationship with a woman he loved and had no desire to leave. So even if he did see the client as irresistible, he was trying hard to make her “just a friend”.
HER ANSWER: She said, yes, he was married, and that she realized this. But her Tarot Cards told her to not hold back, pursue him. He was her soul mate.
ANSWER: I told her that what I also saw is that he was one of the first nice guys she had been interested in. The Joy of being treated with respect was amazing to her. No wonder he was captivating to her.
HER ANSWER: She agreed. She explained the next day after she read on the man, she changed her question to “What is my best course of action for spiritual fulfillment.” The answer from the cards was different. It said, “Leave him alone. Friendship without expectation for more is best until there are more stable conditions.”
She was torn, felt the second answer was true, but wanted to confirm with me, her reader. Since I am not close to her inner chatter, or denials, I could easily read with neutrality and my reading coincided with the second answer she received from her own cards..
WHY DO DIFFERENT READINGS ON THE SAME QUESTION GET A DIFFERENT ANSWER?
The answer is easy. You asked it in a different way. Asking with passion and personal eagerness is like a child seeking praise for a picture they have colored. The blow to the child’s self esteem would be crushed if you said bluntly, “you can do better.”
Just as the seeker asked her cards, “Is Ryan my soul mate?” and they said “Yes! Go after him. He loves you.” The cards became the complimentary parent.
But when the question is asked in an entirely different way, to, “what is my best course of action for spiritual fulfillment, it changes the reading completely. The cards become the wise parent, and tell you the answer related to your personal path for fulfillment. {In short they prevent you from crashing and burning}
SO WHAT QUESTIONS ARE BEST TO READ FOR YOURSELF?
Anything NOT based on personal ego and emotion. For instance:
1} What will the dynamic be for my job this week?
2} What do my guides need me to know for personal self growth?
3} What do my children need most from me to feel closer? {Be prepared the answer may not be one you expected}
4} What personal gifts do I need to develop?
CONCLUSION
When reading Tarot for yourself stick to spiritual self growth questions, not emotional hot topics. Remember 75% of your answer when reading for yourself, is seething with emotion. You will either get the answer you want to hear, or sometimes, a rude negative answer. This happens when the cards pick up both your inner chatter and fears, at the same time. You become your own worst advisor. This is when you need a trusted, neutral advisor who will be honest with you.